Do Not Let the Past Define You

Gwen Randall-Young
January 27, 2025

"Nothing is predestined: The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings." ~Ralph Blum

The child who felt unfairly treated may continue to see the life events in terms of fairness or see the world as an unfair place. The teen rejected by peers may, as an adult, have difficulty entering new situations. One who was hurt may be reluctant to trust others.

If we are to be truly ourselves, manifesting our potential in all areas of life, we need to transcend the limiting beliefs and behaviors we have carried with us for so long.

Sometimes these limitations are unconscious--we do not realize we are living out an old script. Generally, those closest to us do see these behaviors, and recognize where they come from. If you are getting this feedback, consider that there may be some truth behind it.

Individuals can become so attached to the story of the past, that they still have anger and resentment about things that happened decades ago. Every time they revisit the past with others, it is like picking at a wound so it never can heal. It also brings up negative feelings which are known to increase stress hormones and weaken our immune system. Further, when we live in the past, we miss out on the present.

Even when we are aware that we are re-living our past largely because of our perceptions, it can be hard to change. Things that happened long ago can become deeply embedded in the subconscious mind. In this case a therapeutic process involving guided meditation or hypnosis can speed up the process.

We may not have had a choice about how we lived as a child, but as adults, we can consciously choose a different path, and create a different, more positive reality for ourselves. Now, it is up to us. (For information on obtaining my Healing the Past or Healing the Inner Child MP3s visit my website www.gwen.ca)