How to help ease the pain of the first Christmas without a loved one

Respect your physical and psychological limits. For example, you may want to explain to your relatives that you’d prefer to be invited to their celebration this year, rather than hosting the gathering at home.

Establish a soothing ritual in memory of your loved one. For example, you could play their favourite Christmas song or hang a tree ornament to remember their greatest passion. Take time to raise a toast to them with their favourite drink, visit their grave or observe a minute of silence.

Take a moment to share beautiful memories and look at photos of your loved one with people who knew and loved them. Remember that you have every right to cry; it’s a natural and healthy reaction.

Finally, exercise self-compassion and avoid isolating yourself. If the pain of grief doesn’t subside after several months, seek professional help from a doctor, psychotherapist or support group.